Saturday, June 6, 2015

Vogue Introverts

   Edit: 6/9/2015 - Although, I redid the post and made it more of a compare/contrast post, I'm leaving this one up for Jamie's comments on the issue. 


   Lately, I’ve noticed a certain term that seems to be everywhere and used all the time by people my age. Introvert. Now, instead of saying that someone is shy or has a quiet personality, they say that they are introverted, but is introversion really the same as shyness? In some ways yes, but in other ways no. An introvert personality is by no means a bad thing, but it can be difficult to deal with. I, myself may have had introvertive traits my whole life and I've hated it.

    When I was growing up, being shy was not considered cool. If you were shy, you were the weird kid (it really doesn’t help when you’re also the only homeschooled kid in the church youth group). People were always being told to be more outgoing, talk more, and participate more. Now, society has seemed to give people the idea that being shy gives you some sort of mystery element, which is termed introvert. It’s perfectly acceptable to call yourself 'an introvert' and not just say you're shy.

    Shyness is simply being nervous around people, for a temporary period of time. Introversion is a deeper almost mental situation. Introvert personalities share similar traits with shyness, but introverts may have a hard time coming to terms with the issues that make them the way they are. Introverts (by proper terminology) are people that restrict their contact with other people and pursue solitary activities such as reading, writing, etc. However, I believe that being an introvert goes deeper than being reclusive.

    I believe that what really separates introversion from shyness is (and I could be wrong) that introverts simply do not like people at all and avoid being around them, and they're somehow okay with that. They have a hard time interacting with others and tend to have difficulty with social skills. Introverts are deep within their own minds and thoughts, and probably not people who like to talk about themselves. So, if you’re on Facebook and Twitter 24/7 talking about yourself don’t term yourself as an introvert. Introverts are also people that can be difficult to get along with.



     The Nobel Prize winning mathematician, John Nash, is the perfect example of an introvert as is portrayed in A Beautiful Mind. The man was so deep in his intelligent mind and thoughts that he had no problem shutting out the rest of the world, which made it hard for people to reach out to him. John’s schizophrenia didn’t help either, but his introvert nature is probably one of the factors that triggered the schizophrenia. The other college students didn’t understand him (they did like him though), so without realizing it, John’s mind created a friend that he was desperate for.

     If you notice in the movie, when John is around people in the real world, then Charles doesn’t appear. He only comes around when John is lonely, desperate or very stressed. I’m not saying that introversion is caused by schizophrenia or vice versa, but John Nash’s life (at least, how it’s seen in A Beautiful Mind) is real look into the life of a real introverted person and the loneliness they tend to live in.


    Other examples of introverts would be Natasha Romanov, Katniss Everdeen and Wanda Maximoff. And that is probably why the term introvert is so popular, because theses characters have made the introverted personality a cool character trait. To be an introvert gives you mystery and edge and almost playing hard to get. What the reality is, is that their introverted personalities have made them miserable. The inability to trust others, to find a reason to laugh or even live, has caused them to live negatively and be afraid all the time. At least in the beginning of their stories; overtime (and with the help of the right people) they begin to see the world differently and slowly come out of their shells.


     I also believe is that judging your own unique personality based in this statistic board is a useless waste of time. All it is, is a scientific data that is probably going to change in the next couple of years. An official personality test that isn't to different from the quizzes and tests you take online. Only you can know your own personality type.

Mine is: Silently judging and verbally opinionated while plotting the downfall of society's stupidity. You might think I'm joking, but I'm not! That's only a small part of my personality too. Your personality shouldn't be 4 letters on a board. It's what you see yourself as and also what others see you as. And you need to care about people think about you to. Don't fall into the lie of not caring about what people think about you. You're family and friends are the ones who have to put up with you and their opinions matter. Although, don't end up centering your whole life on what they think. They're are their for moral support and criticism to help mold you into a good person. 

     What I'm trying to drive home here (and I never write a post about social issues, unless there's a point behind it.), is that saying you're an introvert and being an introvert can be two separate issues and I don't believe that someone can be completely introverted either, they can have other contrasting personalities that help balance their introvertive personality. If you're saying you're an introvert because you believe it's the same or similar to being shy, chances are you probably missed the mark. Also, don't claim to be an introvert just because it's the cool thing to do. Check yourself and ask other people around you what they believe your personality to be. All personalities are different and people can have different traits of introversion and yes, it can be difficult and oftentimes lonely, but the world is not meant to live in alone.


3 comments:

  1. Interesting post topic! Introvertism *has* been "romanticized" a lot recently, especially in book, which I don't care for.

    Introvertism and extrovertism is how someone's inward needs are charged like batteries. Extroverts are charged by being around people and being stimulated externally--being alone is hard for them. Introverts can be around people, but to get their batteries charged to do it again, they need to be alone in quiet. My mom and sister are both introverts and they say this is spot on truth. Neither are shy, its just that conversations with more than one person, or big parties, simply drains them. I know introverts who are AMAZING with socializing with people and the soul of every party, but they still need some alone time afterwards to recharge. XD

    I think you've misjudged the chart that you posted there at the bottom. Myers-Briggs personality testing really helped my family--my dad kept us in a cult-like church for years and when we finally got out (and away from him) we were very confused about who we were individually and we couldn't understand each other. When a counselor helped up learn our personality tendency with the personality letters and ranges, so much peace came into our home and we all get along with each other (and ourselves!) better because we understand how the other is wired. While I agree with your take on introvertism, I think you've misunderstood what the Myers-Briggs testing is. The four letters actually mean things that encompass outgoing introverts to quiet extroverts; it was made after years and years of studying and the personality types are because people have them, not to push people into a type. You are in the test, even if you don't think you are. Online scoring are not detailed enough, though--we had ours done professionally, and that is how I recommend everyone finding their MB personality. It has been such a HUGE blessing to my family and many other people I know! :)

    I hope I don't come off as rude or attacking. I just wanted to clear some misunderstanding that I was reading. :)

    ~Jamie

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    1. I'm glad to hear from someone who has personal experience about introvertism! I mean, I was completely overwhelmed about your amount of knowledge, so thank you for the insight! What I was trying to point out is that introvertism is more of a mental issue and not just just personality trait. And I was just tired of hearing people claim that they were 'introverted' all the time. And in the character examples that I used, all of them had introvert qualities, but not all may be termed 'actual introverts.'
      Also, thank you for explaining the chart as well!
      I probably won't change anything in the post (just so others can give me their own opinions), but thank you for the deeper insight and knowledge from your first-hand experience.

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    2. You're welcome! I'm glad I didn't come off as a snob or anything. XD I answered your question on my blog; I hope it helps. <3

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